Showing posts with label Life's Lessons. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life's Lessons. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Doom and Gloomer

DOOM AND GLOOMER, maybe you should not read this!

I look forward to Sunday with the TV news shows. The one show that I really liked, which is no longer on TV, was the McLaughlin Group. There were 4 political pundants and John McLaughlin debating the issues of the day. What I liked most about the show were the commercials. GE (General Electric) would show a professor expounding "This is the greatest time to be alive!" and I love their little jingle: "GE, we bring good things to life."

They hit the nail on the head! Life, life and more life. What is happening around the world today with uprisings, marching in the streets, people demanding freedom, quality food and water? Basic necessities to have liberty and enjoy life. Believing in what their government is telling and offering them is no longer acceptable to those in dictator led countries.

Those of us whom have comfortable consistency already in our lives want more and better everything. We want a better living environment or job that pays a little more. We want to enjoy our jobs and have less stress. We want the better car, computer, cell phone, iPad, etc.

There is a big difference between what we want and what we need. Much will be written about the Japanese earthquake and the tsunami's effects. Watching the Japanese and their response and reactions to their tragedy is heartwarming. Actually caring for one another in a time of crisis is so foreign to us. If that type of calamity hit Los Angeles, there would be looting, rioting and outright panic with no regards for others, their property or right to life. This city would turn into total chaos! I hope I’m wrong, but what do you think? What would happen here if Malibu and Marina Del Ray were gone overnight by a tsunami?

James Clavell wrote two books I would recommend, King Rat and Shogun. Both give amazing insight as to the unique treasure of the Japanese culture and unique prospective into their world. Both are stories about survival, greed and loneliness. They touch on the basic components of our own emotional character. They also share triumph, success and survival.

I recently saw the documentary I Am by Tom Shadyac (the director of the Nutty Professor, Ace Ventura, Bruce Almighty, etc.) Tom had a terrible accident while out on a dirt bike. He fell, broke his arm and hit his head. He was in a coma and awoke to a new world of trauma where he could not return to normal life for quite some time. During this tragedy, he found that he needed to discover the meaning of his life. He asked the question “What is wrong with the world? Am I helping or hurting the world with what I do?" The movie is his journey to find the answers for himself and to share his discoveries. His web site is http://www.iamthedoc.com/. Highly recommended.

I work with all kinds of people. My clients are some of the wealthiest people in Los Angeles. Some are very charitable and others are far from it. Some give millions anonymously and others are in the newspaper glorifying their name. What I find is that you do not have to be rich to make a difference. A kind word, a note of recognition or an email of sympathy to someone who is going through a loss and hard times is more valuable than money. A sandwich to the homeless guy, or a pair of old jeans can be more valuable to someone in need. Helping someone get a job that you don't really know or putting your reputation on the line for someone else to help them move forward with their aspirations. Using your assets to help others.

I try to do this daily. I just do it out of habit now. I don't really think about the effort, it just flows. I see a need and try to help. I can tell you that without question, this effort has given me returns that are not accountable on any balance sheet. The pleasure and reward from the act come first and later from the changes that were made to benefit the lives of others. Some recipients may take advantage of the opportunity and not take the time to say thank you. While others may not understand the gesture at all as it is foreign to their character. I learned to give without the concept of expecting anything in return. It is amazing what happens from that.

I have been the recipient of amazing success and opportunities because of my attitude about business and life. By sharing, I think my business has done much much more in dollar volume than if I was a different person.

I just opened escrow on a 10,000 sq.ft. industrial property. I represent the seller and the buyer has his own broker. After a long negotiation, the contract went out to the buyer and it was signed and came back right away. Prior to having the seller sign it, I noticed that we made a typo. The price was $1,212,500 but the contract read $1,122,500. I made the change and we resent the contract to the buyer, who of course signed it. Now my question is, did the buyer see the mistake and try to let it get by the seller? Was it his responsibility to recognize the mistake and correct it? Is it all fair in business? What do you think and if you’re the buyer what would you do?

This is an amazing time to be alive. We can sit by the TV and listen to experts tell us how bad we have it, or we can go outside and sing about how wonderful life really is. We can make a difference and still make a deal. We can have both, and we can share and help others enjoy the fruits of our labor.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Life's Lessons

Last night I got a frantic call from my sister, the mother of my nephew Jeremy (20). He was in the hospital with what was thought of as a stroke. It was just the previous Saturday night that Jeremy and I hung out and went to see Get Him to the Greek. It was a stupid but enjoyable funny movie about nothing really. Something to laugh about and enjoy with a friend.

So this morning, after my boxing workout at 7 am and a quick shower at my mom's house, I rushed out to see Jeremy. It seems that he did not have a stroke, but did need tests to see what made him dizzy when he fell last night. He also has slurred speech (maybe it was the Dodgers blowing the game that caused him to have a medical episode). All kidding aside, when I got to the hospital he was unconscious as they wheeled him back to his room. When he woke up he was mobile with no apparent side effects, and I was relieved. When my wife Theresa showed up, I took off as things were looking good (pending the results of the tests).

Prior to Saturday night, I had been traveling with Theresa. We went to Washington DC and helped my son Sam get settled into his apartment for his two-month government internship. Then we came home for 3 days and left for Portland, Seattle and Victoria Canada. When we finally got home, I felt like I was gone for months. We did so much and had so much fun. But it was so nice to get back home. I missed everything about L.A.

When I left the hospital, I visited my Dad's resting place (it was just down the road). I wanted to say hi and share with him stories about my life. I wound up thanking him for all the wisdom and life lessons he shared with me. The last lesson that he shared is an inspiration that continues to be a teacher for me. It is what he left as a message to everyone he ever had the pleasure to share a moment of his life with:

Glad you came by. Be a winner.
Think creatively and help others.
You must try in order to enjoy tomorrow.
I taught my wife, 4 kids and grand-kids to analyze, be creative and be honest.
Don't be greedy.

I have come to respect my Dad more and more even with him gone. Sometimes we don't appreciate the people in our lives until they are gone. His lessons are so ingrained in me that I find myself asking "What would Dad do in this situation?" The answers come from his interactions with people. He expected much from everyone he did business with, and he made them stand on their own with his support in the background. He made all of his partners wealthy and had their unending respect. I watched him in business give those with questionable character enough chances and rope so to speak until he made a decision to continue to do business with them or move on.

We are in uncharted waters with the current economy. And in those waters we are all in the same boat. Some with more or less resources than the other, but what we do have is our character. There will be some people that can not deal with the "new reality", as my friend Sam Rosenwald calls the current market. They will look for quick money or choose dollars over relationships. This is common during times of trouble and fear. It is in these times that our work ethic, our loyalty and honesty are challenged most.

Having a mentor like my father made the difference for me to do what is right and stand for something. This is why Major Properties, a 47 year old firm, still stands tall today. The foundation was built with integrity and out of respect I vow to preserve those values and dreams. This is what clients of up to 50 years remember, and why they continue to call our firm again and again. They all know that we will take their interest first, and over time we will help them profit with sound advice to get through these stormy waters.

I will pray today that Jeremy is okay and will back on the pitcher's mound soon. Thanks for reading and have a great and safe remainder of 2010.